Rest in peace, Uncle Gordon

Nov 14, 2006 at 10:03 AM
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My Uncle Gordon passed away yesterday morning. I didn't find out until this morning. I'm feeling so horrible. My sister emailed & IM'd Friday night and let me know that he was getting weaker, that the end looked imminent. By the time I'd pulled myself together after our chat session, it was too late to call (after 9pm). So I procrastinated. When I thought about calling Saturday, again it was in the evening. So I procrastinated.

Now he's gone and I never called. I didn't take the chance to say goodbye. I have a history of procrastination. I did it when my Mom died too. I feel horrible all over again.

* Sigh *

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I'm so sorry, mc2. I am sure your Uncle Gordon understands the procrastination. It's a very tough, very scary thing to say goodbye, and for a lot of people it's often just impossible. I don't think you should be too hard on yourself.

I do exactly the same thing. I work in a hospital, and my mom will tell me....so and so is in there, you should go visit them. Well, if I know them well, I will...but lots of times I just....um, forget? .....or get so busy that I can't? It's hard to explain, but I think most people understand when something is difficult for someone to do.

Can your sister read your blog? Or can you explain to her in an email how you feel. It's not like you weren't there in spirit, and you don't care...it was just something that was very difficult for you to do.

And, maybe your sister isn't mad. Maybe it was difficult for her to talk about, so she emailed instead of called.

In any case, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Take care. Lauri

My condolances. Don't be so hard on yourself, though-as Lauri says, goodbye is a hard word to say.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Although, sometimes, it's better to let things be unsaid, ya know? I don't deal with death all that well either. I know my family gets on my ass about not calling my mom and dad enough, but that's just how I am, I guess. :/

Take care. My thoughts are with ya.

Well, I have gotten into hot water with my sister for sharing things that she wouldn't have shared, too. So, I had to take it as a learning experience and be more careful where she is concerned.
I just trust the world as a whole too much, probably. But, I think most people try to be understanding and careful of others.
If they don't I guess I just don't have much use for them.!
Meh!

"Meh!" Hee hee.... thanks! That made me laugh. I second that emotion and add a :-P

**BIG HUG**

Your family is in my prayers, MC. Don't let the "goodbye" thing get to you. It's about how you were in the years leading up the hours before "goodbye".

'Course. Everything I do is wrong. *sigh*

Sisters, please! Since you posted publicly, I'm responding to say please get someone to work with you on this issue. If you're both religious, get Christian counseling. If one of you isn't, get other counseling. A sister relationship is too important to let some underlying issue or current hamper it.

Maybe Sis would like to blog too?

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Bless you and you have my prayers.

My sympathies.

Rest in peace, Uncle Gordon

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